Sunday, October 2, 2011
One of her main problems is when she gets sent to the Principal, she starts crying and doesn't give her side of the story. She gives it to me when she gets home and it always goes along with the teacher's version but if she would plead her own case, they could resolve things much easier and more efficiently.
I feel like her underlying major issue is that she doesn't understand boundaries. Not sure if it's actually hearing related...I know that people give us cues with the tones in their voices when we cross the line, but they usually also give us visual ones as well such as furrowed brows, and various other gestures we pick up on...
She has a little boy she likes to play around with and they make each other giggle by calling each other silly names "Old lady," etc. and they both giggle and think it's funny. However, it gets them in trouble, and I completely understand that this 'game' will eventually go too far and they need to find something else to talk about...before someone gets mad.
So Brook asked him a question...just an honest seven year old question about his family. He got offended and said she was making fun of him. She got in major trouble, likely because she started crying and didn't plead her own case. She was so confused when she got home. "I still don't know about his family. Kids are supposed to look their parents." I have no clue about the child's background but we discussed foster care, adoptions, extended families, and anything else I could think of. I don't think she was intentionally making fun, she just had a question that people got mad about instead of answering for her. We need to figure out a way for her to stop crying so much when she feels "wronged" and ask the appropriate questions instead of crossing boundaries. I wholeheartedly believe this is the underlying issue rather her trying to be mean. She likes the kid...but she's only seven too. So that's what I am going to focus on for a while and see if that helps. I'll have to get the teacher's help though since I won't be there when the situations occur.
Now don't get me wrong, she still gets into trouble for other things (mainly talking) but for this particular issue, based on the info she gave me...she was just looking for some information about his family...not really trying to hurt his feelings. She just has to learn when to STOP!
Oh goodness, this will all work out in the end (we hope) and she'll grow and learn from her mistakes. Let's just hope she learns to do this outside of the Principal's office rather than inside it!
On a different note, we are looking forward to our Zoo trip next Sunday with The HEAR Center! We love seeing all the kids with hearing loss explore the zoo for a day.